Episode 3

Love's Seasons

Episode 3: Love, Dating, and Self-Discovery

Welcome to The Mirror Project!

Christine and Alexandra are back, ready to delve into the realm of love and dating—perfect timing with Valentine’s Day approaching. Grab your favorite drink and join us for a reflective chat on love and life.

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Choosing a Life Partner

Our Love Life Tales: Sharing stories from our own experiences in the world of love.

The Wisdom of Choice: Reflecting on Henry Cavil’s poignant words about choosing a life partner and its impact on our happiness.

Reimagining Dating Priorities: How does this insight influence our perspectives on choosing a life partner?

Loving Yourself Whether Single or Taken

Date Yourself: Exploring the importance of self-dating!

Embracing Individuality: Understanding oneself, finding contentment in solitude, and nurturing friendships.

Maintaining Independence in Relationships: Avoiding dependency and sustaining individuality within partnerships.

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Lessons in Dating 

Dating Insights: Alexandra shares wisdom from Benjamin Daly’s Instagram reel, highlighting key lessons on dating.

Rethinking Dating Perspectives: How do these insights reshape our approach to dating?

Closing Thoughts

Reflecting on today's discussion, we hope it prompts introspection on your relationships, both with yourself and others. Share your stories or insights on social media or via email. Christine’s favorite takeaway: “You don’t actually miss them, you miss what you wanted them to be.” Alexandra resonates with: “If you are not clear on the type of person you want to attract, you’ll waste a lot of time dating unsuitable people.”

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Transcript
Christine:

Hello and welcome to The Mirror Project.

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We are your host, Christine,

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Alexandra: And Alexandra,

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Christine: and we are so

glad you are joining us.

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Today we are going to be

talking about love and dating.

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It feels pretty on theme with

Valentine's Day around the corner.

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Whether you are in a relationship or

single, at the moment like us, grab a

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cup of tea or a glass of wine and join

us as we journey through love and life.

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Alexandra: Before we dive in today's

topic, like, subscribe, or follow us

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on your preferred listening platform.

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Go ahead, pause, and do

it now before you forget.

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Don't worry, we won't

get started without you.

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okay, so we're going to kick this off

by talking about what choosing a life

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partner means kind of what goes into that.

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So before we jump into a interview of

our quote of one of my favorite actors

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why don't we catch people up on what are

the dating lives have been like so far?

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So Christine, I know in the intro,

we mentioned we're both currently

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single, but how is your love life

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Christine: How's my love life going?

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So far, I've really not put much of

a focus, like, the year just started.

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So, so far nothing.

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But I would say up until this point,

you know, I've definitely come to the

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choice that I want to start exploring

dating and relationships a bit more.

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But.

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I took a little break at the end of

the year from doing all that just

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because I wanted to focus on me.

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2023 was, as I, I've mentioned in, in

previous episodes an interesting ride.

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And I did a little bit of

dating but I haven't been on

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any dating apps since college.

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Mostly because that kind of gives

me the ick a little bit, but I

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understand that's the name of the game.

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But for this coming year, it's

definitely a goal of mine.

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I want to sort of push myself out

of my comfort zone a little bit

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and challenge myself to just get

out and start meeting new people.

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And, I understand that there'll be

days when it's a little defeating

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and frustrating, but I don't want to

shy away from it because I'm scared.

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So, that's where I'm at right now.

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And I'm looking forward

to seeing what happens.

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But how about you?

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What's going on with you, Alexandra?

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Alexandra: So, also still single

I've been for quite a while now.

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I think yeah, Christine, you definitely

knew my last serious, yeah, my last

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relationship to, who was probably

somebody I'm sure Christine wanted

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to slap me upside the head sometimes.

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I was going, really?

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Christine: I

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didn't know him all that well.

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But what I knew, I didn't like.

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I will say that.

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Alexandra: so after I left New

Jersey, which we've talked about,

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and I moved to North Carolina, I

kind of went into a hermit phase.

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I felt like I didn't

have a job to begin with.

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When I first moved down here,

I didn't know who I was.

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I felt a little lost.

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So for a long time, dating has been

on the back burner and then starting

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to put myself back out there,

thinking about it, looking for a job.

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COVID hit and, you know,

little odd dating in.

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And I think at some point I was

like, I just don't like people.

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But a friend of mine who will be a guest

on our show upcoming had encouraged

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me that when I was ready to put myself

back out, there should be my wing woman.

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So she did help me make a dating

profile earlier this past fall.

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And I had gone on a few dates.

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They were interesting.

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And then like you for like the holiday

season at pretty much from a little bit

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before Thanksgiving through Christmas, I

was like, I don't want to deal with it.

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Don't want to deal with people.

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As we've talked about, I'm doing my

MBA program, finishing up the term.

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I was like, I am not dealing with people.

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So I'm actually started my second term.

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So we'll see, or not my

second, but my next term.

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So we'll see how that's going

and see how the dating fits in.

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Cause we will just let it roll as we go.

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Haven't quite.

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Reactivated my dating profile, which

I would agree with you, Christine

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dating apps kind of give me the ick

is my experiences, which I'm sure

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I'll talk about a little bit later.

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In this episode, there was

one that was, Oh, quite funny.

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but yeah, that's really

where we're at right now.

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So we're definitely single.

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And I think sometimes that can make

Valentine's a little hard, right?

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You're surrounded by these TV shows,

movies, advertising, everything

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that's like, oh, love, love,

couples, dates, romantic nights,

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wedding proposals, da da da da.

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And I'm like, single, still, still single.

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Christine: Yeah, I will say for me

growing up Valentine's Day, I wouldn't

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say I felt bad that I was single.

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I have been single when Valentine's Day

rolls around, because I grew up in a

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very loving home, I admired my parents

marriage and I look back on, you know,

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at being a kid, like my dad always would

make sure that he not only treated my

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mom special on Valentine's Day, but

that he also did something for each of

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me and my sisters so that kind of like

warmed my heart and put like a nice

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little thought put nice thoughts about

Towards Valentine's Day in my mind.

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I also look at it as an opportunity

to, tell the people and relationships,

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friendships that I have in my life,

how much I love and appreciate them.

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So, I'm a big fan of Galentine's Day.

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I always like to do a little something

around this time of year for my

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girlfriends, because they truly

are the best people in my life.

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And, Yeah, I, I think, you know,

it's nice to have that, even though,

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that view on this time of year, even

though I am single, and who knows?

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We'll see what next year has.

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Alexandra: Yeah, I would definitely

say that you taught me to appreciate

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Galentine's Day because I didn't really

have a whole lot of girlfriends in

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high school who Celebrated that way.

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So I think it was more in college

that you Introduced me to that.

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So it's always

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a nice reminder to tell

people you love them

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Christine: yeah, exactly.

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I would say it really didn't become

a big thing for me until college

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either because You know, growing

up, I went to very small schools.

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I went to a small Catholic elementary

middle school where I was with the

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same 40 something kids from when

we were 5, 6 years old till we were

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ready to go off to high school.

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And then when I was in high school,

I was in an all girls school.

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And high school's just

a rough time all around.

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Emotionally and then being surrounded

by an all girl environment.

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At that age can be hard but once I hit

college and I found my group of people, I

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really wanted to embrace Galentine's Day

and make it just as special as Valentine's

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Day because those were the relationships

I was fostering and caring most about and

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I'm, I'm, I carry that with me always, so.

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definitely something to keep in mind

that I will keep in mind as I venture

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into a romantic journey and relationship.

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Alexandra: and speaking of a romantic

journey and finding a Either person

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you want to spend some time with for

a little while or your life's partner.

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So while back, I think I came across

this or you came across it and we sent

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it to one another and, to our listeners.

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You may not know that I have a

huge, huge crush on Henry Cavill.

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I think he's just a total sweetheart.

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Very attractive.

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So nerdy.

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So cute.

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Christine: So nerdy.

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I love how nerdy he is.

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Alexandra: Also, have you seen, um,

on a social media, his dog like,

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Oh my God, I just love his dog.

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Christine: I saw something else

how he runs with like a lion hat.

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Like he just runs, he goes on his

run wearing this like, adorable

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crocheted or knit lion mane hat.

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It's so funny.

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He's

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just a, he's such a goof and I love it.

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Alexandra: Oh,

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Christine: That's why we like him, men.

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That's why we like him.

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Not because he's super hot.

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I mean, that helps, but

that's why we like him.

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Alexandra: yeah, it does help,

but he's, he seems so sweet.

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So this was something I was scrolling.

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It's one of us was scrolling

on our feet or whatever.

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And it was from Alpha

Motivation Zero's account.

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I would not, I don't know anything else

about them other than this one post.

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So I couldn't recommend them or not,

but the, in the real, it was a video

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of him being interviewed and was

asked a question about life partner.

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And so he said, He being Henry Cavill

said, choose your life's mate carefully.

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From this one decision will come 90

percent of all your happiness or misery.

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Never deprive somebody of hope.

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It might be all that they have

never waste an opportunity to

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tell someone you love them.

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Remember that 80 percent of

success in any job is based on

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your ability to deal with people.

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And lastly, don't expect life to be fair.

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And when I heard that, I was just

like, Oh, that hit all of the areas.

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Christine: That hits love,

dating Just life in general and

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your relationships with people.

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It's really beautifully said.

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And I don't know if he wrote it or if he

was quoting someone, but, yeah, I agree.

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It was so poignant and beautifully said.

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Alexandra: Because and like we were

talking about earlier with Galentine's

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Day or you know, even if you're single

This is a really good time of year

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just to a reminder to tell people

you care about them and love them

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Christine: Mm Including yourself.

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Including how much you care and

about, care about and love yourself.

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Because that's the first relationship

you have and will always have because

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you always have you for company.

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So foster that love and

relationship with yourself.

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Alexandra: yeah, and I think it stresses

it's like if you're on the dating

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market or you're dating something

because you're looking for a Lifelong

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partner that person that'll be with

you How important it is of a decision

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that to make it so it's not something

that you know, I think February and

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Valentine's and all the romantic feelings.

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It's like the emotions are put to

the forefront and like, yes, feeling

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attracted or connected to somebody or

in love with somebody is so important,

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but also choosing wisely somebody

who supports you, somebody who loves

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you, somebody who may push you to

be better without being a bully.

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You know, these are things and

characteristics and qualities that

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are so important, but I feel like

sometimes within the, Push for

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like, Oh, be in a couple, be in a

relationship that's not stressed so much.

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And,

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you know, I would say with my ex that

Christine did not know very well,

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but for what she heard, I certainly

felt pressure to where I was in life.

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I was in college.

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So many people were in serious

relationships moving towards marriage.

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I think I was so swept up in the

pressure of like, this is what I need

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to be doing at this phase in my life.

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I ignored a lot of.

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Red flags that were problematic not

because this person was a bad person, but

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because it wasn't the right person for me

So this definitely brought to forefront.

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I was like, oh, yeah, like

Don't ignore the red flags.

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What are they saying to you?

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What is it reinforcing?

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That you want or don't want.

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Christine: exactly.

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And for me, I've, I've not been in

a long term relationship before.

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I've just been casually

dating since college.

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Getting, you know, meeting

people here and there.

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I definitely have been able to take

the time, because I don't have first

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hand experience, to really think

about what I want and what I expect.

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So for me, I'm approaching dating not

in, like, The phase of high school

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or early college where I have that

experience of a high school boyfriend or

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early college boyfriend to, to lean on.

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So, I'm, I'm not looking

to experience that now.

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I've, I've really been able to figure

out what I want and what I don't want.

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And work on myself.

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Eventually, I do want something long

term and I know how important it is

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that I must love myself first and enter

in a relationship knowing that I'm an

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individual outside of this relationship,

and I have so much to offer other

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than just being with this person.

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yeah.

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Yeah,

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Alexandra: just talking about the the

next topic we wanted to cover which was

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loving yourself Whilst you're single

or in a relationship So Christine, can

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you tell me more about what it means

for us to love ourself because I know

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that's something that I struggle with

And as you said, you're the person

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you spend your whole life with you

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Christine: mm hmm.

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Yeah, so I won't say I'm an expert on

the topic, but having been single pretty

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much, I've, I've been single, I've never

been in a relationship at this point I

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really have learned the importance of

not only self love, but what it means to

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date yourself because It teaches you more

about who you are allows you to figure

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out what you like and you don't like,

and, at the end of the day, the internal

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dialogue that you have with yourself is

just as important as how you treat others.

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Because if you don't treat yourself

the way you want to be treated,

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then that's just inviting other

people to treat you poorly.

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So, those are the lessons I've learned.

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And it's taken a while to get to this

point, but I think It's important to, to

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share about that with others, be open.

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I don't, I don't feel shame that

I've never been in a relationship.

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I did at one point because like what you

said Alexandera, that you got swept up in

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what you thought you needed to be doing,

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With that last relationship.

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I definitely can relate to that.

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And at points in my life Early

college, I guess I would say.

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I kind of would feel that way at times.

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But, I don't know, as, as I stand

now, I, I kind of like that I've

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never had a significant relationship,

other than my friendships and my

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family relationships, because I

think at the heart of any romantic

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relationship is a friendship, right.

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Like, if you, if you aren't truly

friends with the person that you're

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dating, Then what's really there

because the attraction Is all very

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it's all surface level like you

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got to dig deeper if you don't

connect with that person On a soul

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deep level then I don't see it

as a Something that's gonna last

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And that's okay.

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You can have those relationships.

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I frankly I think they're important to

have But, for something long term, if

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you find yourself in a relationship where

you're not friends with who you're dating,

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Alexandra: hmm.

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Christine: I think it's time

to do a little self reflection.

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Alexandra: Yeah, and that

brings up a good point, right?

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Cuz like you want to have commonalities

with the person That you're with and you

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want to have that basis of friendship

of something to come back to you.

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Of course, you don't always just, you

know, want to be in the friend zone.

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you want that chemistry, that attraction.

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It's, I think it's a blend

of the best of both worlds.

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And I think there's still something

to, a bit of the opposites attract.

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And it's finding that sweet spot,

that beautiful blend of all of it.

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Which is, I think,

sometimes difficult to find.

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And it's so funny cause we were talking

about dating apps a little earlier.

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And I remember being in college and

I was like, I think I put, I was like

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looking for a longterm relationship.

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And that's what I put on this one.

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And you know, there's so many

people who are like, we'll see that.

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And they think I immediately want to

jump into a longterm relationship.

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And I'm like, No, I mean, yes, if

it's the right person, but no, I

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do not think our first date will

constitute the rest of our lives.

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Christine: Also, even if a first

date sucks, give, give it a try.

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If you feel like there is potential,

give that second date a try.

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Because first dates, so much pressure

is put on first dates, it really does

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feel like you're going to an interview.

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Especially if it's the first time

you're meeting somebody, it might

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be a different story if, you've been

friends with them for a while and you

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decide to explore a romantic relationship.

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But,

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Alexandra: it's almost like

a cold call, like show up for

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Christine: Yeah!

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exactly.

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So, I think it's, it's truly important,

knowing who you are, and being

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confident to stand on your own.

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Like, it's okay if I don't find a person

right now, and being secure in that, and

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then being content with your own company.

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I think if you're not able to just

sit and be with yourself I encourage

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you to explore why that is the case.

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And, in the long run, I think it's not

only going to benefit you, but any future

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relationships, friendships, you have.

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Alexandra: I like that you

brought that up, right?

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Because I would say I'm more of

an introvert, I think we've talked

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about this before, that I feel very

comfortable at my own company, at

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home, at a coffee shop, in a bookstore.

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Where I don't feel so comfortable are

necessarily taking myself out on a date.

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And no, I don't mean a coffee date,

because I just said I'm very comfortable

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being alone at a coffee shop.

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But I mean like going to the theater,

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Christine: Mmm.

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Alexandra: hour.

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Like,

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Christine: Mm hmm.

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Yeah, sitting by

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yourself in a restaurant.

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Mm hmm.

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Alexandra: Yeah, that's something

I want to try and I think

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and work on, cause I've gone out

on dinner dates with friends.

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I'm very close with, we catch up for a

few hours, but that's also very different.

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You know, it's like, this is a

friendship relationship not really

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a date with yourself, you know?

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So it's my friend Traveris

is very good at that.

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She's like, Oh, I love taking

myself on a date to go to a

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dinner and just treating myself.

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And I think, I don't know why, but

I get very wrapped up in my head

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of what people think of me, which

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Christine: Mm.

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Alexandra: as we talked about, I think in

sayings and mantras, that is a catch 22

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Christine: Yeah.

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Alexandra: worrying about

what other people think of us.

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Because it should, as you said, we're

the most important relationship we'll

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have in our life, like our opinions

of ourselves should matter more than

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Christine: Mm.

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Alexandra: might think of a

woman eating dinner alone or

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Christine: And I agree,

I'm in the same boat.

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I feel awkward doing that myself.

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I haven't done it yet, but it's

something I want to work towards.

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But it's also not normalized

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in Our envi in our society

or in in our environment.

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The thought of going out into a restaurant

and sitting by yourself, I think, it's

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one thing if you're going and sitting

at the bar and having dinner, but,

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like, actually sitting down at a table

that's set for two usually and having

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a meal in a room full of people who

are with friends, family partners.

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It's a little daunting to think

about because it's one thing sitting

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by yourself in your own space

alone, but being in a room alone.

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Is something entirely different

and really can make you feel alone.

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Cause I don't necessarily feel

alone when I'm home by myself.

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But if I'm in a, if I'm in a public

space alone, yeah, that's hard.

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Alexandra: I would also say not

distracting yourself with our phones

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or social media while you're eating,

genuinely being present in that space.

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cause that's something

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I look forward, I don't know if I

look forward to, I look for in a date,

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like, are they, is he on his phone

a lot or is he here present with me?

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Because even if it's a first date, I,

I almost rarely look at my phone unless

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I'm saying, Oh my gosh, you know, we

were talking about something almost ago.

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I have to show you this picture

or somebody's like, Oh, hey,

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what's the picture of your dog?

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Otherwise I keep my phone in my purse.

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You know, it's not in sight.

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I'm not looking at it.

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And a little easier to do when you're

having a conversation with somebody

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theoretically, although I see people

out on, I'm assuming dates, but

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they're not talking to each other.

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So, you know, different

strokes for different folks.

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But I think this is also important to,

to do before you're in a relationship.

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But I think we have also had conversations

of like, you know, if and when we're

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in long term relationships, these are

things we don't want to stop doing.

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We don't want to stop taking

ourselves out on dates.

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We don't want to stop having our

time with our friends and then our

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time with our partners, our person.

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which I think that's really important.

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Because I, I know I've seen a lot of

girlfriends and, and, particularly

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in college, get so absorbed

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Christine: Yeah

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Alexandra: person they were seeing

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Christine: right

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Alexandra: became.

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Christine: Exactly they

lose themselves they

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become

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in some cases their self worth becomes

wrapped up in this person that they are

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in a relationship with My heart goes out

to people who find themselves in that

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situation, and my one, sort of PSA is

that it's okay if you find yourself in

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that situation, but I encourage you to

reach out to people, and try and sort of

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work through why you're, why you found

yourself in that, in that situation.

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But yeah, the, it's truly important to

remember That you are your own person,

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and that you know, living in, living

in a country, a society where the rate

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of divorce is so high, I think it's

like 50%, or maybe even higher, 50%,

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or The importance of your relationship

with yourself, but the relationship

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with the other people in your life.

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You don't always have to be

constantly doing things with

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the person you're dating.

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and I think if the person you're dating

is jealous of this, that's a red flag.

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Alexandra: Mm hmm.

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Christine: Because it's important to still

have things outside of that relationship.

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Alexandra: Yeah.

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Christine: say this having never been in a

relationship, so I that's where I'm coming

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from, but it's how I'm entering any future

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Alexandra: Mm hmm.

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And like you said, kind of avoiding

or not falling into codependency

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relationships or when you become

aware of it, extricating yourself.

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Because when you place The reason

for your happiness on another person.

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It can be a bit volatile, right?

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Like, it can be taken away at a moment's

notice, or it can be great for a while.

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And I would say something that's

important is whether you're male or

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female, and you're dating whomever, if

you're talking to your friends about

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your partner, and you only tell your

friends about the bad things, your friends

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are already primed not to like them.

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So when you're like, Oh, don't just

be happy for me and all this stuff,

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they're gonna be like, No, because

I've heard All of the shit that

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you just complained about and how

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terrible they are.

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I'm not really rooting for you.

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So, you know, that's important

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Christine: yeah,

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Alexandra: to share the good

times with your friends.

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Like, oh my gosh, yes, my partner,

he was, he or she was so sweet.

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They, you know, came to

work and surprised me.

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Brought me, you know,

lunch and just, it was.

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A random Tuesday, and we love spending

time together, and it's okay to, you

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know, chat with your friends, saying,

This thing's really annoying to me, I

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feel like I have to have a conversation

It's like the balance, but yeah, I

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remember hearing my mom talk about her

stepsister, and How everyone in the

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family just didn't like the person she

was seeing, because every time, you

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know, They broke up, they're like, yay!

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And then he came back

around, and they're like, oh.

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And the, and her stepsister was

like, why does no one like him?

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Because we've seen all the

terrible, the mess he leaves

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beside every time he leaves,

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Christine: Right,

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yeah,

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Alexandra: yeah, not making somebody

else the center your happiness.

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Christine: exactly, yeah, and

that's, that takes time to learn, and

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it's certainly easier said than done,

I think because I've definitely found

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myself in situations that I sort of look

at and I'm like, how did I end up here?

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But that's, that's how it can

happen, it can just sneak up on

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you you don't even realize it.

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But, having those strong relationships,

friendships outside of that situation

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you might find yourself in, truly have

saved me and have helped me navigate

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out of not great moments of my life

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Alexandra: Yeah, and I think I value

the friends who, like Christine after

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my ex had yeah he had dumped me.

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I'm just going to say it.

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I was also, this was during

college and I was studying abroad.

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No.

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We had just finished

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undergraduate, and

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we were going, I was going out to Canada.

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The reason the abroad comes up

because this was the second time I

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was dubbed while outside of the U.

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S.

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Christine: Oh my god.

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I didn't know that.

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Alexandra: Yeah, so, the guy I was dating

our first year on the dance team, I

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was over the summer break and I was in

France on a class study abroad and he had

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just called and dumped me on the phone.

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And I was like, ah, cool.

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This sucks.

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Christine: But you're

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in France, so

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Alexandra: hey, that

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night was interesting.

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Had a friend on the trip and

she was like, get in the shower.

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You can cry.

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This is, you have an hour.

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I'm, that's all you're getting.

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And then we're going out.

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Christine: I like her already.

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Alexandra: so, plastered that night,

like, and if anyone has listened to

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us or will listen to us for a while,

they know I don't really drink a

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whole lot, but definitely that was

Making out with a French man by the

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end of the evening, it was good.

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Then I came home and dealt with it

all, but the second time when I was

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going to Canada and I came home home

being New Jersey at the time for

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me, I remember how much you were

there to support me, Christine.

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You're like, I love you.

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I'm so sorry you're going through this.

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And I think there was a time

she's like, I'm going to have

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a real conversation with you.

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And I don't think that

person was good for you.

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And so I think those friendships are so

valuable that they've heard the good,

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they've heard the bad, and they can go

feel all the feels, have all the emotions.

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I'm here for you.

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I'm there.

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And then we're going to sit down

and have a conversation about

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what you've just been through.

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Christine: Right.

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It was my first.

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Time being able to be there for somebody

coming out of something like that.

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So, I'm glad that I was able to be there

for you and help you and that I did help.

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Alexandra: Well, I think that's a

great flow into the next thing that

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I'm, we'd come across on social media.

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So

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Christine: yeah, this

is something you found

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Alexandra: yeah.

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And it was, it was kind of great.

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It was totally random.

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I don't think I'd ever seen

this person before on my feed.

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So I was like, okay, cool.

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And so this section is called

lessons in dating and it comes

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from Benjamin Daly's post, and we

will link his Instagram account so

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you can check it out for yourself.

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And the video is titled, 20 Things I

Wish I Knew While Dating in My 20s.

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So, gonna run through them for

everyone, and then Christina, why don't

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you pull out some of the ones that

you thought were most interesting.

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Christine: Yeah.

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Alexandra: Okay.

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So it starts, if they ignore

you just quietly move on.

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You don't need to send

them any long messages.

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Just take your dignity and go.

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How you meet is irrelevant,

so stop romanticizing it.

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The important thing is that you meet

your person, not how you meet them.

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Never let a handful of good qualities make

you think everything about them is great.

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The truth is you don't have the

full picture yet, so don't assume.

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If you are not clear on the type of person

you want to attract, you will waste a

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lot of time dating unsuitable people.

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The right person doesn't put you in the

position of not knowing where you stand.

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They give you clarity, not confusion.

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Date people who share

similar values to you.

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Because relationships that are aligned

are so much easier, misalignment in

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values will cause a lot of conflict.

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To meet your person,

you have to be visible.

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After all, If you can't be

seen, you can't be found.

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Presentation is really important because

it's the first step to attraction.

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And when you look good, you feel

good, and you attract better.

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health is more important

than any relationship.

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If you have to sacrifice your

mental well being for your partner,

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you'll lose yourself in the process.

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How someone treats you is

how they feel about you.

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If they act like they don't

care, they don't care.

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Love will always be draining if

you date people you have to raise.

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If they can't take care of themselves,

you'll basically be their parent.

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If someone can steal your partner,

they're doing you a massive favor because

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the right person cannot be stolen.

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You're single until it's

exclusive, so never take yourself

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off the market prematurely.

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If you wouldn't be friends with the

person you're dating, the relationship

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is probably built on physical attraction

or infatuation and probably won't last.

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You actually don't miss them.

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You miss what you wanted them to be.

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Rejection is inevitable, not everyone

is going to be right for you, and you're

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not going to be right for everyone else.

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It's a part of life, accept it.

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Don't believe in promises.

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Only someone's actions will

reveal their intentions.

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Also, don't believe in potential.

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Potential is worthless

without action to back it up.

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So look at where they are

and what they're doing now.

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And finally, there's

someone out there for you.

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The only way you won't

find them is if you quit.

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Christine: What a list, right?

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Alexandra: yeah.

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Christine: I think he

did such a great job.

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He hit, I don't think he missed anything.

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He hit

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every point that's truly

important to think about when

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approaching Relationships.

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I think for me the ones that really

hit the hardest, coming out strong,

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number one, if they ignore you, if

they ignore you, just quietly move on.

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You don't need to send

them any long messages.

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Take, just take your dignity and go.

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I think like the instinct is to try

and explain yourself or try and get

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them to explain themselves to you

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when, you

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know, at the end of the day.

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There might not be an explanation.

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It could just be like, Oh, you know,

I just don't view you that way.

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And yeah, it hurts.

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It sucks.

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But I think, you know, that's when you

can turn to your girlfriends or your

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family or the people in your life that

you can lean on to help you through it.

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Alexandra: I will say that definitely

if they ignore you, but you know,

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if you started somewhat seeing

somebody consistently or a few

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times, and you're just no longer

interested, this is one time when

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I say, please don't ghost people,

just say, I know it's uncomfortable.

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It's hard to be rejected as

later in the list, he says,

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rejection is a part of life.

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I almost, for me, like, as much as it

would hurt, I'd almost prefer to say

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someone like, Hey, I've enjoyed our dates.

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I'm just not interested.

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Christine: Mm hmm.

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Alexandra: Versus like, ghosting?

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Christine: Yeah, ghosting,

it's, it's not nice.

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Like, just disappearing from

somebody's life, especially, because

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there's some people who have ghosted,

like, months into a relationship.

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I feel like ghosting after

a few dates, yeah, it sucks.

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But, I don't know, for me, my

hope in, The approach I want to

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bring to any situation that I'm

in is, is honesty and just being

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upfront.

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I'm not saying this

because I want to hurt you.

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It most, it might do that.

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But it's not my intention.

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I just want to be upfront and honest.

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Because I think what hurts more

is when they just disappear.

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even if you've only gone

on two or three dates.

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Not that you necessarily owe them an

explanation, but being truthful also

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speaks to your character and how you,

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you not only treat romantic relationships

and dating, but your other relationships

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and how you, the integrity you

have and I think That gets lost.

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And, of course, it's the easy thing to do,

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but, I feel like it's important to

foster that in, not only ourselves,

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but in, future generations.

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Alexandra: of goes into, like, how someone

treats you is how they feel about you.

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If they act like they don't

care, they don't care.

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And you don't actually miss them,

you miss what you wanted them to be.

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And I think there's a whole lot of, like,

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Christine: that one

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Alexandra: people conflate other

people's actions or intentions

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and say, oh, he or she is great,

they've got so much potential.

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Yeah, but like the one of the

last ones said, like, potential.

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It's worthless without action.

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That's what kind of happened

with my last relationship.

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Yeah, we had talked about marriage,

but this man who was a boy at the time,

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you know, or behaved like one,

didn't really know what he wanted

608

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and was so easily influenced

by the people around him.

609

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And so while there might have been a lot

of potential in him, that's worthless.

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And I know that Christine

and I have talked about how.

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Motivated and ambitious person I am

and I will tell that funny date story

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that I referenced earlier So one of

the dates I have this past fall I was

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pushing myself outside of my comfort

zone just like hey go on some dates.

614

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It does not have to be the one I'm

just putting myself out there getting

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comfortable where I also learned like

yeah date people who are more aligned with

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you because this man's greatest ambition.

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You ready for it, Christine?

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Christine: I'm ready.

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:

Oh god.

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Alexandra: greatest ambition

was to not be a bum.

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Christine: Wow.

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Some low standards.

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Alexandra: I mean, generally, baseball.

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Like, I mean, yeah.

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And so when I try to ask him

questions about like, oh, what

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is he interested pursuing?

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He's gonna go back to school.

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Like, tell me more about this.

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He was like I don't know, like,

maybe this, because it's kind of

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important, and I was like, mm hmm.

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So, great base ambition, however,

it's not ambition or work

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towards something particular.

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And so I would even ask, I was like,

oh, what are you passionate about?

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What are your hobbies?

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And he's like, I like

when people have passions.

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I just don't know that I have any.

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And I was like, or something like that.

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And I was like,

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oh.

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Christine: dear god.

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:

So, another man who

doesn't know what he wants.

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Alexandra: Oh, and it got a little worse.

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:

This was after

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going up to the bar and ordering our

drinks and bartender is putting it on

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one tab and he's like, okay, together.

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And I think you can kind of read that

was an awkward first date interaction.

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Christine: Yeah.

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:

Alexandra: then the guy

jumped in very quickly.

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No, separately.

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Because I was like, at that point,

he wasn't putting out his card or

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anything, and I was like, Fuck it.

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I'll pay for it.

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I don't care.

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Like,

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Christine: Yeah.

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We're empowered women.

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we

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Alexandra: Yes, I do think if somebody The

person who has asked you out on the date,

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I kind of lean towards maybe

that person should indicate

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:

paying, or if a man is taking a

woman out for a date, or however,

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Christine: Mm-Hmm?

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Alexandra: A woman should definitely offer

and have the ability to back that up.

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I just think a man should

pay you on the first date.

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Sometimes.

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:

But this time I was like,

I really don't care.

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I'm not all that bothered by it.

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:

I can cover for each

of Our, 6 ciders, guys.

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:

That was an expensive date.

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think the bartender knew

how bad it was gonna go.

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:

Anyways, so, it's like pulling teeth

to get any information out of this man.

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I mean, he was asking questions

about me, which was very nice,

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but I was genuinely curious

in getting to know him, right?

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Because you're Trying to see if

this is somebody I would go out with

674

:

again, or whether it's for a long

term, or just to go on another date.

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:

And then he ended it, 7.

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30.

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Granted it 30.

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And he was like, I have to go home.

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My dad doesn't like it when I'm late.

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Now, nothing wrong with

living with your parents.

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:

I

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Christine: No.

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Alexandra: with my mother.

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But this man is Older than I am

685

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Christine: My dad doesn't

like it when I'm late.

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:

Ooh.

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:

Alexandra: and I was like and I'm done.

688

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Thank you.

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:

See you never again

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Christine: and goodbye

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:

Alexandra: So I was

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like this is where values and goals

and ambition out of alignment.

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So I

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was like Confirmation that I need to

search for more ambitious people or

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:

ambition towards something in particular

with actual actions to back it up

696

:

Christine: Yeah.

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:

Wow.

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:

Alexandra: funny date story from recently

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:

Christine: That, that was pretty funny.

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:

And, and you know, I think having humor

is so like being able to, to laugh at

701

:

when things go awry is so important

702

:

because it's so easy to become brought

down and frustrated and, you know,

703

:

feel negative towards when situations

don't go the way you were hoping.

704

:

But.

705

:

Being able to laugh at yourself and at the

situation is so important and I kind of

706

:

like low key was rooting for the bartender

to be like, let me buy you a drink.

707

:

That

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Alexandra: Me too!

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:

Oh, that would have been nice.

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:

I was like, honestly, I was having

better conversations with the bartender

711

:

ordering my drink that

I was with this man.

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Christine: Yeah, I would have been

713

:

like, okay, bye.

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:

So, would you like to

share a drink with me?

715

:

We seem to have more

chemistry than and him.

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:

Anyway.

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:

Alexandra: I think the other quote

that I definitely wanted to hit on was

718

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if somebody can steal your partner,

they're doing you a massive favor because

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the right person cannot be stolen.

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And I would love to comment on this

because I've known quite a few people

721

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who are very worried about their partner

cheating and I don't want to sound

722

:

naive or like my head in the sand, but

it's not something I ever worry about

723

:

because like you, Christine, I said,

I'm very upfront in relationships.

724

:

If it's going somewhere and we're

like, okay, we're exclusive,

725

:

we're dating, I'm only seeing you.

726

:

I have a conversation of

like, I do not want to be with

727

:

somebody who's cheating on me.

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:

Never will, don't have a plan to be.

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:

If you're interested in somebody else

and it's like, you want to act on that,

730

:

I would rather that person come to me

and say, I'm having these feelings,

731

:

I'm interested in somebody else.

732

:

I'd rather end before you cheat on me.

733

:

I will respect somebody

so much more for that.

734

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Even if it sucks and it

hurts, then Being cheated on.

735

:

So it's just, it's not

really something I worry.

736

:

I have a conversation up front, and

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:

I hold people to that standard.

738

:

For some, they may be very worried

about them, and that makes me

739

:

interested, because we were talking

about dating ourselves earlier, and

740

:

it's like, What is at the root of that?

741

:

Is it because you've been cheated

on before, or are you the person

742

:

who's cheated on somebody else?

743

:

So I feel like that's a

very interesting place to

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:

examine emotions and thoughts.

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:

Christine: Yeah, I think it's also

important to talk with your partner, but

746

:

also to, like, figure out for yourself

what certain things you believe are

747

:

cheating, because it's different for

748

:

everybody.

749

:

It's also important to have that

conversation with who you're with and

750

:

hear what they, what their thoughts are

and what your thoughts are, and sort

751

:

of come to an agreement between the

two of you, like, okay, we're in this

752

:

relationship together, it's a partnership

and also I think realizing that you

753

:

don't have to be a cheater, like, you're

not just a cheater if you physically,

754

:

,

cheat with somebody.

755

:

There's emotional adultery, like, there's

so many different things to it, hiding Who

756

:

you're with, or your text messages, like,

I don't think you should give your partner

757

:

full There's a level of trust that should

be at the center of your relationship.

758

:

And if the trust is broken, then that's

something you need to work , if you

759

:

want to work on together you should,

760

:

Alexandra: right.

761

:

And I was just looking back at her

notes and I realized I had missed

762

:

one of his bullet points from his

Benjamin Daly is real, on the whole,

763

:

if somebody can steal your partner

My apologies for missing that one.

764

:

But it said, building on this, if

you don't you don't have to have

765

:

sex with someone to be a cheater.

766

:

So like, Christine said,

the emotional affair.

767

:

The moment that someone starts hiding

texts or lying about who they are

768

:

with, the cheating has already begun.

769

:

I know that may seem a bit

extreme to some people.

770

:

But like, yeah, it makes sense.

771

:

And I don't mean like hiding text

messages between a group of friends

772

:

because you're trying to surprise

your partner with a birthday party.

773

:

I'm not really talking about that.

774

:

, I'm talking about

775

:

Like a surprise celebration and

you don't want to ruin the secret.

776

:

I'm talking, you, you know what you mean

777

:

when

778

:

Christine: Mm hmm.

779

:

Alexandra: hiding things.

780

:

Christine: And I think it's

important to know the difference

781

:

between, to know what hiding is.

782

:

I think it's not necessarily my place

to , read through my partner's text

783

:

messages, or know what

they're doing at all times.

784

:

, I trust that they, they're

an individual, they can

785

:

have their privacy.

786

:

That, I guess that's the difference

between privacy and hiding.

787

:

Alexandra: Yeah.

788

:

Christine: everybody's entitled

to privacy, yes, and it's trust.

789

:

But as soon as, you know, you

can, and you can tell when

790

:

somebody's hiding things from

791

:

you.

792

:

That's something you have to

be like, okay, what's going on?

793

:

and, and and have that

uncomfortable conversation.

794

:

I am a big fan of the idea of

having uncomfortable conversations.

795

:

They are not easy, but

it's important to do.

796

:

Especially if you're in a

long term relationship, right?

797

:

that's bound to happen.

798

:

You're gonna have , differing

opinions views on things.

799

:

And I think the relationships That last?

800

:

Face those things head on.

801

:

Alexandra: Yeah, exactly.

802

:

Because it's I've never been in a

situation where I've been cheated on,

803

:

which I'm very grateful and thankful for,

but I feel like, yeah, the whole not,

804

:

I, I don't know, you know how sometimes

you'll see or hear people our age or

805

:

younger they just go through their

partner's phones, That weirds me out.

806

:

Like, I don't need to.

807

:

I don't want to.

808

:

I trust the other person.

809

:

I expect that trust in return.

810

:

I also don't care.

811

:

I'm not somebody who ever snoops.

812

:

I don't like to.

813

:

I don't want to.

814

:

Here's a fun example.

815

:

So like, around the holidays when

you open up presents from the

816

:

Christmas tree, I almost hate

that moment of opening the gift.

817

:

I love the suspense too, kind

of like imagining what you

818

:

might get, like the surprise.

819

:

I've never been somebody who goes

under the tree and like, shakes it.

820

:

Like, what is it?

821

:

What am I getting?

822

:

so yeah, that's not me.

823

:

So I don't do that with my partners.

824

:

I think it's, to me, it's like a little

too intrusive when people are like, oh

825

:

no, I just, I look through my boyfriend's

phones, DMs, all the text messages.

826

:

I was like, that just

exhausts me hearing about it.

827

:

going to be honest.

828

:

As Christine can text.

829

:

I am a terrible texter.

830

:

Like

831

:

Christine: Yeah.

832

:

Me too.

833

:

I'd rather pick up the phone.

834

:

What?

835

:

Well, I mean, yeah, but

so am I, so it's okay.

836

:

I'd rather pick up the phone and

837

:

I, and call, and call somebody.

838

:

I, I heard I saw something

silly where people are doing the

839

:

ins and outs for the new year

840

:

and how someone was saying phone

calls are out and I'm like,

841

:

I fucking love phone calls.

842

:

I

843

:

love FaceTime, Having to sit

there and type out everything

844

:

that I'm thinking is so annoying.

845

:

And then also, it's going

to get misconstrued.

846

:

It's going to

847

:

be

848

:

misinterpreted.

849

:

So I'm just a big fan

of picking up that phone

850

:

Alexandra: hmm.

851

:

Christine: seeing you in person.

852

:

So,

853

:

Alexandra: Yeah.

854

:

Yeah.

855

:

Christine: don't blame you for the text

thing because I'm also a bad texter.

856

:

Alexandra: So, another fun fact,

I, for the handful of dates that

857

:

I went on this fall, I pulled

some amazing stories out of them.

858

:

Amazing might not be the right

word, but some interesting stories.

859

:

So, one of very nice men, attractive,

we had some interesting stuff.

860

:

I just, I wasn't opposed to a second

date with him, I just didn't see

861

:

it going somewhere very long term.

862

:

And I was very clear, I am very busy,

863

:

Christine: hmm.

864

:

Alexandra: we have talked

about, I work a full time job.

865

:

Christine: Going to school.

866

:

Alexandra: Going to school.

867

:

doing this, working on another

business, lot going on.

868

:

And that I'm kind of a shite texter,

like I just, I'm also the bad

869

:

habit of like, I will type out a

response, I'll forget to hit send.

870

:

Or I'll see something come

through, read it, go, I will

871

:

respond to that in a minute.

872

:

And then I don't.

873

:

And I'm like, Hey, this

person hasn't responded.

874

:

Why haven't they responded?

875

:

And I'm getting, and I'm

like, Oh no, it was me.

876

:

I was the asshole.

877

:

I didn't respond.

878

:

But anyways, so this man

was like very insistent.

879

:

I was like, Hey, I'm busy.

880

:

It was actually when I was coming up

to see you, Christine, I was like, he.

881

:

I'm going to go out that Friday, but

I was flying up to see you that day.

882

:

And I was like, I, to go to

a college friend's wedding.

883

:

And I was like, I'll be back

in town, you know, afterwards.

884

:

And it was just very insistent.

885

:

And he was like, I thought

you were ghosting me.

886

:

And I said, no.

887

:

I've told you, I'm just very busy.

888

:

And then he was like, okay, well,

can we, I was like, okay, yeah,

889

:

how about this coming Friday?

890

:

And I was, he was like,

okay, yeah, that's fine.

891

:

And I'm somebody who likes plans.

892

:

Christine: Mmhmm.

893

:

Alexandra: you say you

want to go out Friday?

894

:

What time?

895

:

Where?

896

:

I'll be

897

:

Christine: Mmhmm.

898

:

Alexandra: And then he's

like, well, I don't know what

899

:

I'll want to eat on Friday.

900

:

I was like,

901

:

Christine: have to be a food date.

902

:

Alexandra: oh, no, he,

he'd asked for dinner.

903

:

Christine: Oh, okay.

904

:

Alexandra: Yeah.

905

:

And I was like, okay.

906

:

And so I just let it go.

907

:

And then I think he thought he was

ghosting me and that I would be

908

:

offended and, you know, it was like,

sir, I wasn't ghosting you on purpose.

909

:

I was just really busy.

910

:

And also, I'm okay with it.

911

:

I was okay with this, like,

sure, we'll end whatever

912

:

strange communication this was.

913

:

Christine: Mm.

914

:

Mmhmm.

915

:

Well, it speaks to really how much

it is something you have to work at.

916

:

If you want to pursue a relationship

in the early stages of meeting

917

:

somebody, it takes work.

918

:

So, setting up the I don't know if

the ground rules are the right, is the

919

:

right term, but basically sort of just

coming to an agreement, like, okay,

920

:

this is where I'm at I'm really liking

this, I want to keep the momentum

921

:

moving, but We might need to be a

little more creative when it comes to

922

:

how we're starting off this relationship,

because if you're a really busy

923

:

person, you're juggling a lot of

924

:

different things.

925

:

Alexandra: that's the thing.

926

:

It's like, if I'm busy and I'm

making the time for somebody, I

927

:

am making the time for somebody.

928

:

I don't really, there's a couple moments

where my extroverted self pops up and is

929

:

like, Hey, let me do plans with people.

930

:

Usually friends, not necessarily dates.

931

:

I'm like, Oh, why?

932

:

I don't, I didn't really want to go

933

:

out.

934

:

but if I make time to talk

You, Christine, or other

935

:

people, or go on a date.

936

:

I am setting aside that time.

937

:

And I do see my time as valuable.

938

:

so it's, it's kind of hard when

that, that's a the other by a date.

939

:

And they're like, well, I just didn't

940

:

think you, you know, what I, I'm like, no,

I have literally set aside time for you.

941

:

I am showing up.

942

:

You

943

:

know?

944

:

So,

945

:

Christine: Right.

946

:

yeah.

947

:

And, and now

948

:

you know,

949

:

Alexandra: I have definitely confirmed

a lot of things I am interested in

950

:

and not interested in throughout these

experiences And so I think I'm just gonna

951

:

look at dating as that for a while.

952

:

Christine: all important.

953

:

With each interaction, it's

a learning opportunity.

954

:

Alexandra: so now that we've

shared much about our love lives

955

:

and some of the Lessons learned

and dating from other people.

956

:

I mean, seriously, go find this reel

from Benjamin Daly and give it a listen.

957

:

But we would love to hear

from you guys listening.

958

:

What is your current

experience with dating?

959

:

Any funny stories?

960

:

Any, , just heartwarming,

romantic stories?

961

:

We want to hear.

962

:

You know , and tell us

what your thoughts are.

963

:

What are your biggest takeaways.

964

:

So yeah, definitely connect with us

on social media, sharing that or in

965

:

the comment section of this episode.

966

:

Any last thoughts, Christine, or,

967

:

notes.

968

:

Christine: maybe we'll just want

to touch on a little bit how we'll

969

:

look at dating going forward.

970

:

I think, because it's the new

year, I'm excited, I talked about

971

:

this in My goals for the year.

972

:

I'm, I'm entering 2024 with excitement

and energy and I don't want to lose

973

:

it and so one of my many goals because

I only listed a couple But one of my

974

:

many goals does revolve around dating

and Just putting myself out there.

975

:

So I think I do have to just give dating

apps a try I know that there's some I'm

976

:

not at all interested in Doing again,

but there's some good ones out there.

977

:

I'll give it a go.

978

:

And, that'll give more more

stories for me to share

979

:

here.

980

:

So stay tuned, I, guess.

981

:

Alexandra: as you said, going forward,

I definitely be a bit pickier and

982

:

I think that's important to share.

983

:

I think it's okay to be picky when

it comes to your preferences in

984

:

dating somebody, your preferences

in a person or their values.

985

:

I think we hear a lot, or I feel like a

lot of messaging I'd heard for a few years

986

:

was like, being picky was bad, being picky

987

:

was shallow.

988

:

So, I'd definitely No, if your intention

989

:

is to eventually find your life partner,

990

:

Christine: There's a balance.

991

:

Alexandra: it's important

to know what you want.

992

:

and I'm not saying like, oh,

hey, this person has five of

993

:

the six things I really want.

994

:

I'm not saying don't give

that person a chance.

995

:

I'm saying

996

:

if they only have two and they're like,

997

:

not the really important ones,

998

:

maybe no.

999

:

Christine: Mm hmm.

:

00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:35,430

Yeah.

:

00:46:35,750 --> 00:46:38,900

Cause it's a, I mean, with

anything, compromise is

:

00:46:38,900 --> 00:46:40,550

inevitable in any relationship.

:

00:46:40,668 --> 00:46:43,954

But, if it's important

not to compromise on the

:

00:46:43,989 --> 00:46:44,439

Alexandra: Mm hmm.

:

00:46:44,984 --> 00:46:46,024

Christine: the big things to you.

:

00:46:46,444 --> 00:46:49,884

So yes, it's okay to be

picky but remembering that

:

00:46:49,884 --> 00:46:51,464

compromise is a part of life.

:

00:46:51,484 --> 00:46:53,414

Alexandra: I will be holding

Christine accountable to get in

:

00:46:53,544 --> 00:46:53,924

Christine: Yeah.

:

00:46:53,924 --> 00:46:57,024

Yeah.

:

00:46:57,279 --> 00:46:57,889

Yeah.

:

00:46:57,899 --> 00:46:59,409

she'll, you'll be my wingwoman then.

:

00:46:59,519 --> 00:47:00,359

You'll have to help me.

:

00:47:02,292 --> 00:47:05,322

Alexandra: So whether you are in

a relationship or single, we hope

:

00:47:05,322 --> 00:47:07,962

that you found today's discussion,

thought provoking, and maybe

:

00:47:07,962 --> 00:47:11,851

inspired you to examine where you

are at in your relationship and or

:

00:47:11,851 --> 00:47:13,111

your relationship with yourself.

:

00:47:13,381 --> 00:47:16,881

We would love to hear any stories advice

that you want to share with us and which

:

00:47:16,881 --> 00:47:20,761

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